A few weeks ago I shared my thoughts on the book “ The seven spiritual Laws of Success” by Deepak Chopra. While all of these laws have had a profound effect on me, there are three that hit me in my gut and made me wake up. Those 3 laws are as follows:
The Law of Pure Potentiality
Since I was 14 years old it has been embedded in me to “get-up & move” and even though I wasn’t of legal working age, I still had to earn my keep (that’s just the way it was, thanks momma!). So literally since I was 14 I have been moving, working, and making it happen.
Fast forward 2 marriages (yes 2 don’t judge me, LOL), 2 kids, 2 degrees, & about 10 jobs later, I hit a wall!! I found myself broke, busted, and disgusted because I was unfulfilled, unhappy, miserable. The bottom line was I was always moving, shaking and making it happen according to MY will and not God’s will. The law of pure potentiality let me know “Nicole sit down somewhere”, LOL! But seriously it let me know that if I truly wanted to live a life of fulfillment, purpose, and true happiness that I needed to quiet everything around me and be STILL so I could hear what God wanted me to do according to his will because that’s all that really matters.
Hit the fast forward button again (actually hit is a few times because it was not a overnight process, fleshy habits are hard to kill) and after being still to hear the voice of the holy spirit within me I can truly say I am no longer broke, busted, & disgusted but living purposely. Can you say the same if not try being STILL, I dare you!
The Law of Giving
Give and thou shall receive is how the old saying goes right? I am just going to be really open and honest with you, I was raised in the church just like many of you and every month, every member of the church would get their box of envelopes to put their tithes in (I would be so happy to put my little dollar in there that my mom gave me for collection, LOL), but that didn’t last long once the money became my own money! As I got older and started working, I was like “ I am not giving them all my money, they already driving a Benz and will not be buying another one off my McDonalds money (LOL that was my first job). My mom would ask, “Nicole, did you give your 10% of your paycheck”? I would lie and say YES knowing good and well I only put 5 bucks in there.
I kept this up as I got better jobs as well as half of my career as a Registered Nurse. Honestly, I would give what I wanted to give and sometimes didn’t give anything at all (I am just being real, I am sure I was the only one doing this…Yea right, LOL). I was literally working 2 full-times jobs at one point (doing the most and wanting to make all the money, LOL) and would still pay what tithes I wanted to pay, giving to people what I wanted to give, and sometimes didn’t help or give to people who were in need at all because this was “my money that I worked hard for”!! But God…But God! (he has a way of breaking you down very kindly) I found myself in a space where my money was running out as fast as it came in. I had money at 25 years old that people at 50+ had never seen, but yet unhappy, no peace, and no joy.
So on my quest to truly live on purpose, getting peace, & getting joy, I would have intimate conversations with God and asking him to work on me. During that time it was a clear as the sky that part of my problem was my giving and if I wanted to truly live a life of purpose, fulfillment, abundance, peace, and joy that I must GIVE (it didn’t have to be material). I began applying the law of giving to my life, I would give my 10% plus in tithes (trying to make up for lost time, LOL), I would give to people in need, I would give words of encouragement, prayers, smiles, hugs, just because gifts etc. and when I tell you God opened the windows of heaven and poured me a blessing that I didn’t have room enough to receive, it was unreal (don’t get it twisted though you have to give from your heart)! And it wasn’t just material things he was blessing me with; he blessed me with job opportunities that most people dream about, amazing people in my life, joy, peace, etc. and he did it in abundance. So what I am telling you is that if you want to live a life of purpose you have to GIVE (it isn’t yours anyway, just keeping it real). Give a hug, a smile, a prayer, a word of encouragement, pay your tithes, etc. and watch God flow like a river in your life!!
The Law of Detachment
So you are tired of living in your current situation and want something different! You want a better, more fulfilling life, but you still doing the same thing you have been doing, its not going to happen!! This is what a very blunt, real, and loving older friend of mine told me one day when I went to her whining and complaining about my life (Yep she keeps it 100 and said some other things that I rather not share, if you don’t have one of these people in your life get you one), but she didn’t do it to be mean, vicious, or ugly she did it to let me know if you want something you have never had you have to do something that you have never done!
For me that was deep because you see I was comfortable. I was comfortable in knowing that I would be paid a set amount every other week, comfortable in hanging with the same group of people, comfortable in watching T.V. rather than reading books, comfortable in spending money on expensive handbags & shoes vs. investing in a conference or class, you get my drift. I was just comfortable because I knew how to do all these things like it was nothing, there was no challenge in this; it was safe, I wasn’t scared, it didn’t make me uncomfortable.
However, what it did was make me feel like “ this is all it is to my life, really” thus stirring up feelings of unhappiness, unfulfillment, & worthlessness. So it came to a point where I had to recall what my dear friend told me and do something different, but that meant coming out of my comfort zone (can you say scared like a shaking leaf). As I began to really examine that blunt but real advice she gave me I began to apply the law of detachment to my life, which let me know “Nicole get over yourself and bust a new move”. I had to get comfortable being uncomfortable. So I began to take baby steps (I am not going to even front like I went in head first because I didn’t), from those baby steps I took strides, then I started running, and next I will be galloping like a kangaroo (don’t trip God is still working on me, LOL). But the point is when I was ready for more I had to do more. I had to go into the unknown because that is where all possibilities lie!! When I took one step on faith God took 20 more, he opened doors for me that made me say “ well how did that happen” and I would quickly remind myself whose I am.
Listen God doesn’t give us the spirit of fear but the spirit of love & sound mind (his words not mine, Isaiah 41:10 or 2 Timothy 1:7), the spirit of fear is the enemy because as long as he can give you fear he got you right where he wants you.
So I encourage you today to DETACH!! Detach from those things that make you comfortable and all warm and fuzzy and go into the unknown with the only one who can do exceedingly abundantly above all things you can ever ask. Trust me your eyes haven’t seen, nor has your ears heard, nor has as truly entered into the heart of man what God is getting ready to do in your life!! Start detaching!!