"Be Yourself Today, You Look Beautiful Like That"
Caution: This is one of the REALIEST blogs that I have ever wrote, so if your feelings get hurt easily then please stop reading NOW. If you are ready to hear some realness then please keep reading.
2018 has truly been a defining year for me. During this year my faith has wavered, I lost tens of thousands of dollars from a partnership that I decided to exit, I gained weight, and I honestly thought I was losing my mind at times. Despite all of this chaos in which I seemed to lose so much, I actually gained more. My faith has increased, my mental clarity has sharpened, my spirit of discernment is increasing (this is a daily prayer that I pray for God to increase), new career opportunities have flooded me like never before, my waist line is coming down ( Yessssssssssssssss for the Keto Transformation, LOL), and most of all I am truly on a journey to living MY true & authentic BEST life according to MY Intentional journey. I finally see that all the hell was necessary! POINT... BLANK... PERIOD! It was needed so that I could grow for the next level that God is getting ready to take me to and so that I can pass on some pearls of wisdom to others who may be dealing with barriers to walking their OWN authentic journey.
In this season of rejuvenation, I pulled back.... got quiet and observant. And what I observed is people not living life according to their journey. You see........ social media, while an amazing platform that isn't going anywhere, have people out here living a life that they are not destined for. Recently while scrolling my IG timeline, I ran across the below post (see below) from XO Necole and it touched my soul. It touched my soul because it truly highlighted one HUGE aspect that social media is categorizing as a needed element to be considered winning, successful, and popping. But it also opened my eyes to mistakes that I made throughout my journey because of what I thought was needed in order for me to WIN. I am human just like you and I have made mistakes just like you, but what I am not willing to do it to allow those mistakes to be losses, yet I am turning all of them into LESSONS.
So Let Me Drop This Lesson Right Here On You:
1.) There is NOTHING wrong with working a 9-5 or in the case of many of my fellow Nurses 3 12's. Listen here.... let your employer foot the bill for investing in you by taking advantage of every single professional development course, continuing education, learn policy and procedure development and then advocate for change for those policies and procedures that need to be revised, learn leadership development, participate in the innovation of new technology that can help propel the nursing/healthcare industry, build your company sponsored 401K or retirement options as one avenue to prepare for your future, use your income from your employer to buy stocks & buy properties, etc. because these are the things that will help you to develop who YOU are on YOUR journey. Now with that being said I am a HUGE advocate of multiple streams of income, so please develop other streams of income outside of your 9-5 or 12-hour shift job that are INTENTIONAL to your journey. The point is don't let social media or anyone else tell you that the only way to success, to win, or to be popping is to be a full-time entrepreneur because trust me from first hand experience, being a full-time entrepreneur is a BEAST, yet doable.
2.) Wearing designer tags, taking vacations every month, and dining at the finest resturants just to post your best filtered pic for the "gram" is NOT going to add to your bottom line. I love nice clothes, exploring new landscape, and a good meal just like the next person and I do indulge in these amenities only after my bottom line has moved ( bottom line for me is paying off a bill, increasing my savings by 5% month over month, investing in increasing my revenue). However, what I will not do is go broke or invest in things that offer me NO ROI (Return On Investment) just to be popping for the "gram". The fake sense of what success looks like is truly diminishing the development of SELF. The reality is these things don't equal the only manifestation of success, yet they are a by product of some coins that you may or may not be able to afford to deduct from your checking, savings, or credit card account . Now let me be crystal clear here.....success is subjective and is what you say it is, but I want you to know you don't have to only purchase designer, travel abroad, and eat lobster frequently just to be successful. I am humbly ok with shopping the clearance rack at Dillard's, Macys, and DSW, taking 1 trip per year if my funds allow, and hitting up Wal-mart or Trader Joe's and cook at my house so I can get the biggest bang for my buck if that is what my finances and goals call for.
3.) As nurses, we don't get a chance to wear our Saturday brunch best or Sunday's best often because we are often wearing scrubs to deal with bodily fluids, changing linen, and answering "code browns" ( we have all had that one patient who the Miralax is working wonders on, LOL), so we are finding ways to display our style as much as we can and I totally get it as well as try my best to be as stylish as possible when I am working. On the same hand, what I want us to remember is that we are PROFESSIONALS! So feeling as if we have to wear scrubs to work that display every detailed curve to post a PIC of our backside next to the Pyxis machine is not a MUST just to prove your popping. Again, let me be clear here before y'all tear into me, LOL. I see a new trend of nurses becoming " Nurse IG Models" ( not referencing model scrubs for scrub lines...... I love those) and I just don't want us to feel we have to compete with IG models to get attention or to be considered as successful based off of likes because just being a nurse makes us dynamic, POWERFUL, amazing and POPPING individuals. So please continue to post your amazing efforts that you do on a daily basis as a nurse in your beautiful scrubs ( the cutest scrubs exist nowadays and I LOVE them) and definitely be expressive, but don't feel as if it only has value unless you have your backside showing in skin tight scrubs.
I am hopeful that somewhere in this message someone is touched and encouraged to live their own best AUTHENTIC life according to YOUR journey and not according to what the world, other human being, or social media define as a MUST to be successful or popping! You are AMAZING and you are ENOUGH!